Mens Manual - rough draft

Contents

Introduction - what's this book about?

What, another book? Why?

Why bother?

The Signs and Portents

What Women Don't Tell Men

Women's World Has Changed

What Do Husbands and Wives Complain Of?

What Do You Complain Of?

How Should You Love a Woman?

Truth Tests

What does your wife complain of?

Are you an unwitting predator?

Using Counselling

I make the decisions

Discouragement

Inconsideration

Uncooperation

Manipulation

Lack of Respect

Neglect

Unpunctuality

Thoughtlessness

Do you listen the right way?

Helping someone listen to you.

Do you forget things she needs?

Put-downs

Blame

Humiliation, private and public

Emotional blackmail

Respect - hard to earn, easy to destroy

Strength versus Bluster

Bad personal hygene

Pleading

Excuses

Blustering

Arrogance

Blaming, criticising

Being 'always right'

Bullying

Shouting, threatening

Any mistreatment of children

Assault or threats of assault

Interrupting

Intrusiveness

Invasion of privacy

Invasion of territory

Avoidance of responsibility

Cowardice

Laziness

Juvenile behaviour

Untidiness

Irresponsibility

Withdrawal

Substance abuse

Selfishness

Tough - but oh so gentle

Feminine side? What? Who? Me?

Kindness is not just for the ladies

Who plans your marriage - why?

Men are different - so are women

Earning respect

Knowing what you want

How to ask - nicely

Removing fear

Being encouraging

Trust

Earning trust

Did you choose badly or did she?

Next steps

Conclusion