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How Should You Love a Woman?


Short answer: the way she wants to be loved.

Actually, it applies just as much to men.

You'll hear it said: "Tell her you love her."

Yes, but how do you tell her? The lazy way? "I love you". There - I've done my duty for the week. Now off to the pub, bar or tavern, again.

Worse, there's this scenario: he slaps her on the side of the face, makes her ear feel as if it's exploding into her skull, she gets a huge headache and she can feel her eye swelling up. He strides out of the room, slamming the door behind him. A picture falls off the wall and smashes. She pulls herself up out of the tangle of furniture she had been hurled into, and sets about trying to put the room to rights, dry-eyed. This isn't the first time it's happened, by far. A couple of minutes later he comes back into the room, carrying a flower from her garden. "Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. I love you, I do so love you. Never tell me you want to leave me. You're mine. I love you." The words themselves aren't enough. In this case they're not true or certainly not all the time. Actions speak louder than words. Do we really believe he loves her? Maybe.

Do we believe this is the way she wants to be loved? No way!

How do you "tell her you love her" then? This is a good point to review that chapter on Truth Tests. Lights dim, curtain falls. Applause.

Actually, this one works both ways, it's as good for a women loving a man as it is for a man loving a woman.

Why do we want to know? - Well, if you don't know this, how can you do it properly? If you're pretty sure you know already, you don't need this chapter, but we'd like you to read it anyhow, so you can write and tell us if you've got a better method. We can learn, too!

How do we find out? - Trial and Error aren't bad, but they're time consuming. We've got some suggestions here, and you can read through them and see if they ring any bells for you.

Troubleshooting:

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